Three things I notice in a person

When I was asked to write a post on this topic I thought it's very easy, as you know I am a genius ;) but actually it was not. 3 things that you notice in a person, not just at first sight; but over time.

I started thinking what could be those things; eyes, nose, height, voice, makeup, hair style or something else. 

Between too much of disturbance from my family, when I didn't get time to think, I sat down to write this post past midnight.

So, the things I see in a person, irrespective of the gender, are :

1. Truthfulness:

                   Truthfulness in one's talk, in one's eyes, in one’s smile, in their actions. Whatever may be the medium we come into touch; direct acquaintance, facebook, blogs or twitter, if you are not true in your words and your actions, I may stay away.

I have a good memory (actually selective good memory as I also forget to bring onions or milk while coming back from office) I remember everything you ever tell me, every promise you make, every moment you made me smile or surprised me with your words or action. Hence, lie comes out into light if not immediately then in some time.

Truthfulness doesn’t mean you not to share everything happening in your life but whatever you tell me should be true. Also you need not fake your feelings, if you doubt me as a person or as a friend; you are free to walk away from me at any point of time. All I expect from you is that you inform me before leaving, and I promise I would not try to stop you or even ask you what went wrong and where. As I always say “ Jane waale ko kaun rok sakta hai.”

May be you would say that I am wrong. But, I dont lie, or cheat in a relationships I expect same from others. If I said something to you, I do it, and if I dont want to do something I won't say yes to it.

Also if you and mee are friends, I would believe in your words first rather than any other person who come to me and start bitching about you. I would not believe in hearsay till the time I myself find that you were lying. And no, I will not spy on you. 

2. Innocence & Maturity:

               At every stage of life we have some innocence. Innocence of being a human being. If you try to be over smart or if you are a "look I have bought expensive watch, or handbag" type of person then I am not a right person to talk to.

We all face problems in life, each one of us, but if you believe that you are the only person having problems, first of all, you are wrong and secondly, I am not sure in which planet you live. Don’t let your problems come between the innocence of relationship. Together we may find a solution but fighting because you are busy all the time and not giving me call back or you are a changed person now, irritates me to extreme.

With innocence one must have maturity to accept their past. If it was not good then things will change and you would have a better life. If it was fabulous and now everything has changed then it will change again and things will be rocking again.

Innocnece to accept new challenges without fearing and maturity to lead yourself till the finish line.

Innocence to hold a hand because you feel its right and maturity to accept the consequences and to keep your promises and words.

3. How you treat others:

                             If you treat me well I will be good with you. But, if you treat others badly in front of me, you lose me. You lose your respect in front of me. It could be anyone; security guard standing outside the showroom, Autowala, sabjiwala, waiter of a hotel, your neighbour aunty or a girl who is struggling to park her car at parking lot( applicable only if you are a man). You are how you treat with those who are giving their services to you.

One would be nice, humble and soft spoken in front of those with whom he/she wants to interact. If I were to give you an example; you always try to be friendly, show your respect and never get angry with your seniors in your office but with juniors your behaviour change. It turns a harsh voice, always ready to scold, implying that I am senior and you are a junior, which is absolutely wrong. I am not saying not to be strict with juniors but saying not to be a naysayer.

Treat everyone well, of course excluding those who are not good with you.

 These are just few things I notice in a person while some other are your hobbies, how serious you are with the work you do, whether you remember my birthday, you like chai/coffee, icecream and cakes or not and your facebook/twitter profile :D