When I was asked to write a post on this topic I thought it's very easy, as you
know I am a genius ;) but actually it was not. 3 things that you notice in a
person, not just at first sight; but over time.
I started thinking what could be those
things; eyes, nose, height, voice, makeup, hair style or something else.
Between too much of disturbance from my family, when I didn't get time to think,
I sat down to write this post past midnight.
So, the things I see in a person,
irrespective of the gender, are :
1. Truthfulness:
Truthfulness in one's talk, in one's eyes, in one’s
smile, in their actions. Whatever may be the medium we come into touch;
direct acquaintance, facebook, blogs or twitter, if you are not true in
your words and your actions, I may stay away.
I have a good memory (actually selective
good memory as I also forget to bring onions or milk while coming back from
office) I remember everything you ever tell me, every promise you make, every
moment you made me smile or surprised me with your words or action. Hence, lie
comes out into light if not immediately then in some time.
Truthfulness doesn’t mean you not to
share everything happening in your life but whatever you tell me should be
true. Also you need not fake your feelings, if you doubt me as a person or
as a friend; you are free to walk away from me at any point of time. All I
expect from you is that you inform me before leaving, and I promise I would not
try to stop you or even ask you what went wrong and where. As I always say “ Jane waale ko kaun rok sakta
hai.”
May be you would say that I am wrong. But, I dont lie, or cheat in a relationships
I expect same from others. If I said something to you, I do it, and if I dont
want to do something I won't say yes to it.
Also if you and mee are friends, I would
believe in your words first rather than any other person who come to me and start
bitching about you. I would not believe in hearsay till the time I myself find
that you were lying. And no, I will not spy on you.
2. Innocence & Maturity:
At every stage of life we have some innocence. Innocence of being
a human being. If you try to be over smart or if you are a "look I have bought expensive watch,
or handbag" type of person then I am not a right person to talk to.
We all face problems in life, each one of
us, but if you believe that you are the only person having problems, first of
all, you are wrong and secondly, I am not sure in which planet you live. Don’t
let your problems come between the innocence of relationship. Together we may
find a solution but fighting because you are busy all the time and not giving
me call back or you are a changed person now, irritates me to extreme.
With innocence one must have maturity to
accept their past. If it was not good then things will change and you would
have a better life. If it was fabulous and now everything has changed then it will change again and things will be rocking again.
Innocnece to accept new challenges without
fearing and maturity to lead yourself till the finish line.
Innocence to hold a hand because you feel
its right and maturity to accept the consequences and to keep your promises
and words.
3. How you treat others:
If you treat me
well I will be good with you. But, if you treat others badly in front of me,
you lose me. You lose your respect in front of me. It could be anyone; security
guard standing outside the showroom, Autowala, sabjiwala, waiter of a hotel,
your neighbour aunty or a girl who is struggling to park her car at parking lot(
applicable only if you are a man). You are how you treat with those who are
giving their services to you.
One would be
nice, humble and soft spoken in front of those with whom he/she wants to interact. If
I were to give you an example; you always try to be friendly, show your respect and
never get angry with your seniors in your office but with juniors your behaviour
change. It turns a harsh voice, always ready to scold, implying that I am senior and you
are a junior, which is absolutely wrong. I am not saying not to be strict with juniors but saying not to be a naysayer.
Treat everyone well, of course excluding
those who are not good with you.
These are just few things I notice in a
person while some other are your hobbies, how serious you are with the work you do,
whether you remember my birthday, you like chai/coffee, icecream and cakes or
not and your facebook/twitter profile :D
